10 THINGS YOU CAN NOT SAY IT BETTER

10 THINGS YOU CAN NOT SAY IT BETTER

For onlookers, it is not always easy to know what you should and should not just say to someone with an eating disorder. How do you help someone with an eating disorder and how you make sure you do not make the wrong obsession?

I understand now why an eating disorder is so complicated for people who do not have it themselves and take it amiss that sometimes nobody said anything to me is not really helped when time Well, I have tips for bystanders who could provide insight into why the comments are difficult and can help the misunderstanding caused thFor onlookers, it is not always easy to know what you should and should not just say to someone with an eating disorder. How do you help someone with an eating disorder and how you make sure you do not make the wrong obsession?

I understand now why an eating disorder is so complicated for people who do not have it themselves and take it amiss that sometimes nobody said anything to me is not really helped when time  Well, I have tips for bystanders who could provide insight into why the comments are difficult and can help the misunderstanding caused them to be reduced.em to be reduced.

I remember someone told me that I was a '' nice round face '' had received. They thought I was again '' buttocks in my pants '' and did not '' such a sunken belly. '' The remarks came at that moment in my recovery all wrong. I felt fat, ugly and wrong. This was all I the thoughts that I had developed through of my eating disorder should not have. It might have been healthy, it just felt weak, fat and ugly.

It is good if someone with an eating disorder, self-ask how a note is intended. For those who do not have an eating disorder, it may help to understand why the note can not be fine and what things you might better not say. Below I've put down ten comments, you might better not make against someone with an eating disorder.

1. You look healthy, you've arrived?

Many people who have an eating disorder

interpret this as "You have become fat? '' Or '' I see that you have arrived '' and find this scary. You might mean quite nice and positive, but it can not always be as well understood when someone still very with his or her eating disorder is in progress.

2. You have a lot of  nice dinner today

This remark is perhaps meant very kind and helping, but can be understood by someone with an eating disorder commented. It is often difficult for them to eat enough or not to talk. A note about overeating, guilt may worsen.

3. You've arrived, it's good that things are improving.

If you have an eating disorder and your weight is healthy again, this does not mean you're instantly on your eating disorder. Even if you eat normally again. It's about what goes on in the head. An eating disorder but has not always related to underweight. In many cases, someone has a healthy weight or slightly too high and no underweight.

4. If you just eat more, it is fixed on

An eating disorder is not just about food, there's much more. '' Normal '' eat again seems like a simple idea, but if that was the solution, the person with the eating disorder that had really chosen. Of course it is good to try to eat as much as possible anyway or to stick to quantitative limits if you have cravings, but that the disorder is not over.

5. Talk about your diet or weight loss

Of course, it is fine to lose some weight by losing weight in a healthy way is if you are overweight. Still talking about lines can be very difficult for someone with an eating disorder. Perhaps he or she picks up on tips or triggers her because she compares herself and her weight loss.

6. Do you have any tips to lose some weight?

I also had this question yourself regularly. People thought I knew a lot about losing weight because I was thin and had an eating disorder. As a result of people often thought that I knew how fast that could fall off. For them a logical question for me a comment in disbelief. It is also  not helping to work with someone who has an eating disorder, talk extensively about the best ways to lose weight or healthy and less healthy food. That is actually the way to go along with the eating disorder.

7. How can you have an eating disorder, you just eat?

That someone eats a healthy weight or a normal diet, does not mean he / she has no eating disorder. An eating disorder is much more than what you see. Beyond that, someone in the sight of others than good food at home, but maybe get a binge or eat properly compensate. A comment like this can cause a lot of misunderstandings

8. If you find yourself fat, what do you like or not like me?

An eating disorder is not always about the image that sees itself as actually quite thick. Sometimes it is simply a thick feeling. Yourself feel fat has to do with emotions often can not express themselves in a healthy way. The problems are about the person himself. Often people with eating disorders to other people see that they are fat, even if they weigh more. They may perhaps feel guilty about that you think that they will find you fat while it is not so mean.

9. I could never go so long without food

An eating disorder is not just about food. Beyond that, it is not true that someone with an eating disorder not eat. Often these restrictive eating, excessive compensation or right to binges. Someone with an eating disorder that skipped meals, can also not so long without food. For them, it is not a nice feeling and very unhealthy.

10. Nothing

Of course, there is really everything you'd better not say to someone with an eating disorder. You can never really do it well. Yet it is not that you must adhere to all the rules. The person who has an eating disorder itself must of course also learn to deal with the comments. So there's really nothing you can do wrong. Talking about the problems and your worries may express. Do not you feel too guilty about a comment or ask for it and talk about even, Thus, all misunderstandings are right out of the air and can be anything you say construed simply wrong

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